Pain & Happiness

happiness and pain.jpgWe are no stranger to dreams and difficulties in life. We all have ambitions and many of us have been through times of hardship. These are two of the many vital factors that shape us as a person.

Happiness is derived from dream and pain is a derivation of the hardship one has experienced. These develop into a person’s threshold. It’s the highest and the lowest point of each individual person.

It is a spectrum that is different for every person and changes as life progresses. One person’s life cannot be compared to another’s. It is relative. Relative being the key word here.

Someone’s pain may be nothing to yourself, and your pain may be meaningless to someone else. It’s like the saying “Your small life is someone else’s big dream.” Always appreciate what you have and embrace pain, you are never given more than you can handle; and know that it doesn’t last forever!

The best ones turn their pain into their happiness, they build a dream of something that’s affected them largely in life. It is the best kind of motivation in my opinion.

Here’s a couple of examples:

Elon Musk (PayPal, Tesla, SpaceX)

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  • Pain
    • Suffered from Malaria
    • Lost first born child
  • Happiness

    • Multi-planetary species
    • Interstellar Space Travel

Steve Job (Apple, Pixar)

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  • Pain
    • Suffered from Pancreatic Cancer
  • Happiness
    • Change the world of Computing (putting it simply)

Casey Neistat (Youtuber, Filmmaker)

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  • Pain
    • Left school at 15, left home, made girlfriend pregnant, had son at 16
    • witnessed the 9/11 attack at close proximity
  • Happiness
    • Doing what he loves (filmmaking) until death

Your happiness and your pain creates your story. What is your story?

Fight Through Life !!

Just thought I’d do a little post about something that has been floating around my head for the past couple of months. I’ll try and keep this one short and simple. Don’t want to make it too long for you guys.

It is currently 12:19am on a Friday night and I’m sitting here at the emergency room as my sister is receiving immediate treatment for her agonising toothache. A prime example of how you randomly get hit in the head with life’s ‘little’ problems. 

Life is a continual battle, from the day we are born until death. You will be thrown problems after problems. Let me expand on that. The first few years is purely survival and provided that you are lucky enough to be born into a stable environment, you will make it to the next bit of life. It’s more of a physical battle than a mental one at that time. Then you’re a little kid you are limited to the amount of things you’re allowed to do, we all know the annoyance we experience when our parents say no to things. At teenage you are bombarded with piles and piles of work and you just have to hope you’re not an awkward teenager, that just would make things harder. As a young adult you just get more work during university/college, after that’s done, you have to work all the time and pay those dammed bills, then kids and all that blah blah. You can see where I’m going. It’s just a blizzard of problems. Very pessimistic. 

In every potion of life there is always a problems/obstacles/challenges. There will never be a point where you can say “I’m done!!” and put your feet up. You will be innocent enough to think that when you are younger, I know I was. Now after this 25 years of ‘experience’ I can say that the best you can do it take out those little moments and enjoy that time in your life, experience the essence of that age. Do what you are supposed to at that age, just live it, don’t miss out. 

Let’s look at the flip side, in the first few years, there is discovery, wonder and learning. When you are a kid, you have no major problems in life, no headaches, no bills to pay, it’s a time to be completely and unapologetically carefree. Teenage is time for many different types of discovery, it’s a time to explore and try different things. Being a young adult is when you get your first taste of freedom and so and so.  You can see that often the positives outweigh the negatives. Be optimistic. 

Sometimes life can stop throwing stones and rocks; instead  be harsh and throw a boulder at you, which may or may not bring life to a halt (depending on the mangnitude of that smash and your mindset as an individual). To that I can say that life can be a complete sh*tstorm and you have have to keep wiping the crap off your face and keep moving forward. Have no regrets and only look back to reminisce those good moments. 

At the end of the day, we don’t remember much of the negatives, only the good bits. 

Life goes on. Just keep livin’

Internal Demons #VLM

Completed the Virgin London Marathon yesterday. Home turf. One of the World Majors and on the same year the millionth finisher crossed the line. What a treat and a privilege to be a piece in the making of history.  Also “smashed” my PR (personal record) I’m still overwhelmed by the feeling and experience in the last 24 hours.

I’m going to be discussing more about the change in my mindset rather than the race day experience. That being said, London Marathon was one my of my best running experiences thus far, the support from the crowd was second to none, the course was amazing and I was more prepared for this race more than ever. If you’re thinking about applying next year, just do it. Don’t think twice, you will not regret it!

I think this is a good time for reflection of how far I’ve come since I ran my first race back in late-2014. 4 marathons and 5 half-marathons later; an accumulated distance of nearly 275kms. 275kms of being out of my comfort zone. Ironically this is becoming my comfort-zone now. The journey I’ve been through has been revolutionary for me. Finding and discovering many different traits about myself.

“The only person stopping you is you”.

Internal demons are those negative dark disgusting thoughts that create self-doubt, overthinking, over-analysing; everything that brings you down in life, sometimes very very low.

This journey has allowed my to ‘let go’ and to ‘kill off’ some of them and bury them within me. Sounds brutal but I did warn that this article wasn’t for the light-hearted.

Marathon running is more of an emotional sport than a physical one. If you’re a runner, I’m sure you’ll be nodding with agreement. I learned so much about perspective, relativity, dissociation etc (let’s save that for the next running article).

Marathon has become a metaphor for life, everything experience and conquered can be applied to life. The same emotions than allow us to run a successful marathon will enable us to lead a successful life. Running is not my life but it is definitely part of my life. I hope I can continue to say that for many years to come.

Different people have different approaches to removing theses internal demons. Some may dance, sing, travel etc. The common thing between these are that they are all an art-form, as is running. If you’ve been reading my running blogs for a while. I’ve always said that they are more an exercise for the mind than the body, and it is evident from the somewhat-awesome effects it’s having on my life.

I may look the same from the outside but the Internal structure has been reshaped and enhanced.

Stronger than yesterday and still continue to move upwards and onwards. Here’s to a stronger tomorrow.

I made a minute documentary or my Paris and London Marathon experience. Feel free to watch if you have a few minutes to spare.

Superawesome Marathon Film

Just Like Everybody Else. #Happytuesday

Sunday evening, sitting here tangled in my thoughts. An academic with a creative vision. Having achieved an engineering degree; a subject matter that finds a better way or sometimes a new and different way of approaching a problem; it has taught me a lot. Not just how to calculate numbers and analyse engineering related problem; but a little bit about life, how to live a better more efficient life and the general lifestyle that I was aiming to obtain.

It began when I went off to university many years ago; having passed my A-levels and having done everything that I am supposed to have done before I reached that stage of my life. Life was quite a challenge up until that point and I was prepared to face the upcoming challenges.

Having watched ‘The secret life of Walter Mitty’, and a compendium of many other factors have made an impact, a tangental movement of thoughts in my life.

I was having a conversation with my mum one night regarding the future and other matters; and it struck me. I was following a pattern, a pattern that everybody else was following. It kind of goes like this:

GCSE > A-level > University > Job > Marriage > Children > Their lives

I had progressed to the third stage.

I see this as a blank standard life. This is the system, this is life inside the box. It’s not an easy life, it is one hard to achieve, but what would I have really achieved?

Life up until this point was predictable and if I follow that pattern (a pattern which society expects you to follow) then life would be predictable in the foreseeable future. The element of surprise, mystery and spontaneity might be removed from life. Now don’t get me wrong, life has it’s moments, but then those were only moments, I wanted a lifestyle which would contain those three elements.

If you are following that pattern that everybody else is following, then you will have to face the same problems that everybody else is facing. They freak out on a Monday, work the dreaded 9-5, spend most of life stuck in traffic, look forward to a Friday; only create goals when it’s new year (just for the sake of having a new years resolution) and many other mediocre components.

Now I’m not suggesting that you leave education, or quit your job. I’m telling you to look around and see what you are doing; some people are satisfied and completely content living the passable life. However if you aren’t feeling it then it’s time to make a change. This reminds me of something that Steve Jobs said, ‘The life that we are living is created by people who are no smarter than us, we have to take a chance and modify it for the better’

Life doesn’t come with a rulebook, and to a certain extent we are able to take advantage of that and break free. We are a limited when we are younger, but we will be older at one point hence have full control of our life, once we are there we can choose to make the changes needed for a more satisfied and a more broad life. Live the life that has traces of spontaneity, excitement and awesomeness.

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I have reserved admiration for people that do not follow the rule of life; and slightly bend it and create their own paths. Some may say that it is a life with a twist.

Some of the people discovered over the years and look up to are:

* Casey Neistat

* Jack + Finn Harries

* Lois Cole

* Ben Brown

* Elliott Hulse

* Lizzie Velasquez

and many many more.

Do not settle; get comfortable with being uncomfortable. Keep stretching and test your limits.

Follow your heart, live the life you love, do not care what others think; and don’t hurt anybody in the process. That’s all.

Inspire the ones who think alike and are fearful of what society may think if the ‘break’ certain rules.

Live in this world, but do not live with it.

Don’t be a number, be a name.

Just a thought.

Aspirations & Achievements #happytuesday

Everyone has some sort of dream, big or small. Having dreams, goals and aspirations is a sign of a healthy lifestyle. If shows that one has direction in life, they know what they what and where they want to be in the future.

However there is a fault in this; people have dreams and most of the time they don’t make any effort in their present to take steps in order to achieve their dreams.

They might have a vision of how their future is supposed to be. However there will be lack of action taken to make that vision a reality.

I myself was one of those people; I had a vision of how I was supposed to be in a time period in the future but took no action to work for that.

Now after detecting that flaw, I have made little changes and I started to pursue my dream.

It’s better to full-ass one thing that to half-ass two things. Become good at one thing at one time. Something to think about :)

Stay awesome.

#happytuesday

24 things to do before 24

So Yeh, turned 23 today, no biggie. As I am always trying to better myself as a person and always keep moving up and forward; I always have little goals and wishes to fulfil for each time period. This year I thought I’ll try something different and have 24 different random goals to accomplish within the coming year, apparently this is a cliché thing but whatever. Some of them are totally random and others are quite goal orientated. Let’s see if I can take all of them on and maybe even surpass them; I’ll probably evaluate them before my next birthday. Wish me luck :)

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I will document all my achievements on here. Keep an eye on me :)